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Joey Essex opens up for the first time about dealing with grief after his mum took her own life.
Joey Essex: Grief & Me is available to watch on BBC iPlayer now: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p09h…
If you or someone you know have been affected by any of the issues in Joey Essex: Grief & Me, these following organisations may be able to help https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/arti…
Transcript provided by YouTube:
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as a young kid just about to go into
00:01
secondary school what are you meant to
00:03
there’s no way out no one understands
00:06
i’ve kept all this pain bottled up for
00:12
people normally see me laughing and
00:16
good morning joey good morning
00:20
things happen to me i haven’t been able
00:22
to talk about are you feeling
00:24
when i was 10 my mum took her own life
00:28
and the truth is i’ve never been able to
00:42
no one really knows what’s going on
00:43
inside my head i’m on my own
00:52
after what happened to my mum my whole
01:00
i’m trying to fill a gap i’ve tried
01:03
everything i’ve done everything
01:05
nothing seems to make me happy
01:08
nothing i’ve decided to look for help
01:12
dr stephen blumenthal he’s a clinical
01:16
and psychoanalyst i’ve never took a
01:20
it feels like it’s going to be one of
01:22
the biggest things i’m going to do in my
01:27
who has become sort of emphasized
01:31
he’s become you know the the sort of
01:34
and everybody’s latched onto that funny
01:36
joey one side of you which does want to
01:39
advance and go on and then there’s
01:42
which is wanting to stay a child
01:46
i wonder if one of the things that holds
01:50
is that it would mean letting go of your
01:58
it’s i don’t really i don’t know really
02:02
that that’s one thing in my life that i
02:07
ever i don’t really want to talk to you
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i don’t want to just start going into
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how how awful it was and bad and this
02:15
happened and that it’s just it’s too
02:17
all right i want to be able to open up i
02:21
want to be able to lay on the table
02:24
hiding like like things in my mind and
02:27
this is the thing you’ve got to get up
02:30
even on the days you don’t want to go
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and that’s that’s going to be
02:34
challenging in itself you’ve got to
02:38
your therapist and be open because i
02:43
so you won’t always put up the different
02:45
joey you’ll put up you’re becoming more
02:48
and openly speaking about it joe yeah
02:50
you’re gonna have to live with you
02:51
for the rest of your life you can put on
02:55
but at the end of the day when when the
03:04
the timing of it was just terrible
03:08
it couldn’t be any worse like you’re
03:11
you’re like 11 years old like you you
03:15
as a young kid just about to go into
03:16
secondary school what are you meant to
03:18
there’s no way out i’m not going to go
03:20
up to other kids and start talking about
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i’m going to talk to teachers about it
03:23
no one understands where you’re coming
03:28
i want to find true happiness i want to
03:31
been in good relationships and i’ve seen
03:36
for some reason this past week i feel
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um i don’t feel like i’m getting i’m
03:43
anything you know i’m looking at you and
03:46
why should i trust you like it’s weird
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for me it’s like quite frustrating
03:50
i’m not opening not because i’m feel
03:51
like i’m not getting anywhere i’ve never
03:54
you know what i mean i’ve never took it
03:55
this serious yes so i think me taking it
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so sometimes that’s how i feel
04:28
i just don’t believe in it matt yes i
04:34
and if she loved me that much why would
04:42
going back to my old house back to
04:47
mom turn up i’ve never wanted to relive
04:50
these memories and never wanted to i’ve
04:52
gone back to that turning where you turn
04:55
in and you pull up my house i’ve never
05:06
all i can remember in birmingham is just
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no worries obviously as a child you
05:13
don’t have no worries anyway but it’s
05:14
just it was just all the happy times
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i just felt like everything was perfect
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i think that was my vision there the top
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hello mate all right how are you yeah
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good thanks how are you mate
05:42
thanks for letting us in mate we really
05:45
i don’t really used to go on i remember
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i used the way he’s hired in there yeah
05:50
change march off i used to my mom used
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to watch me in the same gear
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it’s quite happy memories though you
05:56
know what i mean it’s not
06:02
i just have a i just have a flashback
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we’d sit here on the steps i remember my
06:07
mum used to i wish to open this
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mama cooked macaroni cheese and then
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we’d all just we’d all sit here like
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i suppose that thought of like oh should
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he’s not going to be there anymore that
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anxiety feelings you know i mean should
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place should i but now i don’t seem to
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be as bad as i thought we was
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but yeah i’m glad i’ve come about
06:46
i’ve got to take a picture
06:49
i’m definitely going to keep going to
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